🤔 When Sensation Goes Quiet (Mailbag)

The fading of pleasure is one of the earliest signals your circulation sends. Here is how to read it, and how to turn it back up.

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Hey Honey,

The smallest blood vessels in your whole body live in your genitals, and they are the first to tell you the truth about your circulation.

Years before your heart or your brain raises its hand, the delicate arteries that feed your most pleasurable tissue begin to whisper. A softer erection. A vulva that takes longer to plump. A climax that drifts just out of reach.

We tend to file these under bedroom problems. They belong in your longevity file, right beside your sleep, your nutrition, and your movement, as the Fourth Health Factor.

A reader wrote to me this week with a question that opens the door to the entire science of it. I am going to tell you what sensation loss actually is at the level of capillaries and nerves, why it doubles as an early longevity signal, and the exact sequence that brings the feeling roaring back.

Read to the end, because the last piece is the one most people skip.

Here is her letter, lightly edited:

“I’m sixty-four, he’s seventy-two, and we are having the most incredible sex of my life. We are committed, and I adore him. He has an enlarged prostate and takes medication for it that interferes with his erections.

Viagra helps him get hard, and he feels all the wonderful sensations, yet he cannot seem to climax. It has happened, so we know it’s in there. It’s just very elusive. How can we help him get there? I want him to have the pleasure he gives me.” — Fanny

Fanny, this is a love letter dressed as a question, and the answer is good news. His climax is intact. You have both watched it arrive, so the wiring is whole. What has happened is that the signal carrying his pleasure to his brain is running faint, and faint signals can be amplified.

The machinery of sensation

As a man ages, his erectile tissue loses volume. Less volume means less blood flow. Less blood flow means fewer capillaries. And as those tiny capillaries retract, the sensory nerves that travel alongside them retract too, because nerves are fed and kept alive by the blood supply that runs beside them.

Those nerves are the cables that carry sensation up to his brain. Viagra opens his arteries so he fills and gets firm. His climax depends on the density of those nerve cables and the strength of the signal they send. Restore the blood that feeds them, and the sensation climbs back to the threshold where he tips over the edge.

This is why I keep insisting that pleasure is a longevity practice. The endothelium, the living lining of your blood vessels, is the same tissue in his penis and in his coronary arteries and in the vessels feeding his brain.

When it falters, it falters in the smallest vessels first. So a fading erection or a quiet climax is often the earliest readable sign that the whole vascular system wants attention. The work that returns his pleasure is the same work that protects his heart and his cognition for decades. You restore one, you restore them together.

Start at the root

They have him medicated, and I want the two of you to get curious about the cause with a naturopathic or functional medicine doctor.

Some men carry a Candida overgrowth that irritates the prostate, and that organism feeds on sugar, so a guided sugar-free stretch can be revealing.

While he is there, have the doctor check his testosterone and assess his gut health, since gut trouble and inflammation drive much of this. And raise one tender point at his next appointment. Certain prostate medications quietly blunt a man’s ability to climax.

Ask whether his specific prescription could be muting his orgasm and whether a gentler option exists. Healing the prostate at the source may let him step away from the very thing standing in his way.

Build the vascular foundation

Talk with his doctor about a low dose of tadalafil every night. Nightly tadalafil brings back his sleeping and morning erections, and those overnight hard-ons flood fresh, oxygen-rich blood through his tissue while he rests, keeping the architecture plump and the nerves fed. This is true conditioning for the tissue.

Then add nitric oxide, the master signaling molecule that tells your blood vessels to open. I make a food-derived booster from organic watermelon rind, spinach, pine bark, and acerola cherry called FLOW, and his first bottle is free at GetFlowFree.com. The citrulline pathway tends to serve people over forty especially well. Have him pile on leafy greens and beetroot, set aside antibacterial mouthwash, which kills the oral bacteria that help convert nitrates, and talk to his doctor about coming off any acid blockers, which interfere with the same chemistry.

Rebuild the tissue

A vacuum erection device reverses the atrophy, grows new capillaries, and coaxes the sensory nerves back out to the edges where the feeling lives. He can begin every other day, right away. Two pumps earn my recommendation, and only these two.

• The simple, less costly one at pumpswork.com.

• The fancier one that does the work for him at pulsingpump.com.

Hold that spacing even when the clinic wants to rush, because the unhurried rhythm is what gives him the lasting result. Ask about a P-shot while he is there, the regenerative injection that accelerates all of it. His full roadmap lives in The Pumping Guide at pumpingguide.com.

Train the nervous system

While his body rebuilds over the coming months, the two of you get to train his nervous system tonight. His climax is a wave, and he has to ride it high enough to crest. Picture his arousal as a ladder with ten rungs. Rather than racing for the top, build him up, ease him back a rung or two, then build him higher again.

This peaking gathers a charge in his body, so that when he finally reaches for it, there is enough sensation pooled to carry him over. Give him strong, direct, generous stimulation as he nears the edge, stay relaxed and unhurried together, and let him keep his attention down in his body and connected to you. The more often he engorges, the brighter that signal grows, climax after climax.

The whole of it

Sensation loss is your circulation speaking in its earliest voice, and it is reversible. Read it as a longevity signal, then go to work. Find the root of his prostate and ask whether his medication is muting him. Lay the vascular foundation with nightly tadalafil, FLOW, greens, and beetroot. Rebuild the tissue with everyday pumping, a P-shot to speed it. And train his nervous system by peaking his arousal up the ladder until he gathers enough charge to crest. Do these together, patiently, and you will watch the elusive become the expected, and then the gloriously reliable. The same blood that returns his pleasure is buying him years.

You are already giving him the safest place in the world to let go. Now you are giving him the biology to match.

To good flow and a long, sensational life,
Suz